Wasn't it just yesterday that I made my first post here with a happy new month cheer and February is ending already? What is even more shocking is that some people’s marriages are ending faster than this month.
With my last post, I made some of you think this is gonna be a serious, get-to-work kinda blog. No, it’s not. Haha. In my subtle effort to shade the over serious people, I became the projection of same. Don’t blame me. The atmosphere was too tense. It was a new month, and everybody had started doing a thousand thing already and I was just making my first post. So I had to sound ghen ghen! You know like Mr. Richard, the genius of our time.
Now that we have gotten that out of the way and we are now on the same page, a little gossip would not come as a shock, yes? Great!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH MARRIAGES?! This is the most buzzing question of late and it has gotten my attention because I am a good fan of marriage. Even a certain son of man who ‘allegedly’ cheated on his wife and has their marriage under the rocks joined people to query. They say “Marriages are under attack.” “The Devil is waging war against marriage because it is God’s first institution.” “Marriages are not working.” Not mine!
Ok.. ok. I am not trying to be insensitive to other people’s pain but if the major factor in recent or most collapse of marriages is infidelity, then I sincerely think we should be looking towards the physical or the psychological aspect but definitely not the spiritual because spirits do not ehen.. (coughs, I am not writing that if you like don’t get it) With the prevalence of marriage crisis in our beloved country, different narratives are being churned out daily:
Don’t ever love a man more than he loves you.
No carry man for head.
Women are just there for the money.
Men gain nothing from marriage.
Men will stain your white.
Nobody forces women to stay in an unhappy marriage.
Men are natural polygamist, as long as he pays your bills, nothing else matters.
What is funny about these narratives is that they are not entirely false. I would embrace some of these if I was married to a cheat, a beater; a mad man. But at the end of the day, both genders are just out to roast each other and fanning the inferno they call Gender War. And roasted we shall all be!
As much as I would like to pretend that I’m not on any side, I have come to sit on the same table as one Commenter. She said that, for every Samson, there is a Delilah. Although the accuracy of this statement is in question because Samson wasn’t necessarily promiscuous (even though frolicking with the Olosho from Gaza should easily qualify him as one) as the commenter was trying to infer. In regards to Delilah, He just happened to fall in love with the wrong person. And Delilah wasn't necessarily snatching Samson from anyone too. Either way, this allusion is perfect for me. Falling in love with an ashawo boy is falling in love with the wrong person. And that's already a recipe for disaster. No better way to put it; call it temptation, indiscipline; you are an ashawo, a traitor who should have never been trusted with something as sacred as marriage. Eni toba de dale, ase kini? A bale lo. (no violence please, make it swift and painless)
We were never told what became of Delilah. Wild guess: she got married and lived happily ever after with your man because you didn't do to her what a soap does to the eye. The statement; women supporting women, have never been truer with this our generation of women. Gorl, if you forget to blink, by the time you do, you will be naked. Bonnie Parker dey play. Else, tell me why a woman would make a pass at a man with an infant in a stroller?! You thought his mama died giving birth to him? Or men now pick babies like manners?
“Oh she is your wife?!” she said as she brushed past me. I had just smiled at a lady I thought was admiring my son being wheeled by his Dad. Apparently she had put up a show, communicated without language and the whole time, I was there and did not realise someone was hitting on my man on the go until he whispered, I told you. These girls been coming at me. They wanna be your baby’s mama. Gorl…
I'm telling you, these BBL Delilahs ain't playing, you better not marry a Samson or a Solomon. What’s with names with S though.
Fun fact: I’ve got two brothers named Samson and Solomon. They must not see this blogpost. Help me!
This particular topic is quite complex, and I’m not sure how much emphasis should be placed on it. The divorce rate is just as high as the marriage rate, and one major issue is that many people don’t take the time to define why they want to get married in the first place. Often, it’s societal pressure pushing them into it rather than genuine readiness or compatibility.
Many people enter marriage with unrealistic expectations, influenced by the glorified portrayals on social media. Once they’re in it, they begin to wonder, Is this really all there is? Additionally, the concept of marriage has lost much of its traditional value because, in many cases, emotionally and mentally immature individuals are getting married. They see marriage as just another step rather than a lifelong commitment that requires effort, understanding, and growth.
I truly appreciate your concern on this matter!
This was refreshing to read.!